Please women I need your help.?

I never have a problem scoring dates, I'm attractive so it's easy however.... When I start talking I wear my negative experiences on me sleeve and I'm not affraid to say them because I feel they define me. I'm not afraid to say that I aspire to be in a notebook type relationship one day ( maybe women think I'm being a pansy but I'm a man I just want the most out of life, I mean if your going to be with someone might as well go balls to the wall right?). Like I don't know if chicks think I'm trying to rush them or if my tendency to be serious about certain matters scares them. I mean life has been hard for me through my child hood, through my tours in Iraq but they're battle scars that proudly define me, in my head at least. Any ways second and third dates are usually rare and I tend to get pushed in the back of their head. Any reason why, maybe I should change something?